What are you arguing about?

The argument is about the “thing”…and not about the “thing.” Meaning, while you might be arguing about who left dishes in the sink, there’s almost always something more at stake…control, lack of control, closeness, distance, desire, or hurt.

Your partner, as much as you love them, often triggers the very fear and doubt you hoped a relationship would resolve! A “negative cycle” is created…and another argument flares up.

This repetitive cycle creates distance, even though you are trying to connect. Even though the argument changes, the pattern feels the same. Although you want to be in a relationship, you might feel dependent, overwhelmed, too crowded, too distant...the list goes on.

Couples therapy can help!

Good news!

The cycle can be changed!

We’ll create the support and tools to help you move beyond destructive, repeating cycles of fighting and arguing.

In the process of arguing over “the dishes” couples can lose sight of the underlying fears, hopes, and feelings evoked when we live near and with important others. Couples therapy can bring you closer, with a new, deeper understanding of how your relationship can be nurturing, safe, playful, creative and intimate.